counselling and psychotherapy
About Counselling and Psychotherapy
Counselling and Psychotherapy are talking therapies built on rapport and trust. Over recent years, there has been more of an understanding of the benefits of therapy - to discover insight, for personal development, to gain clarity, to name and express our emotions, to find ways to live through challenging situations, to heal when hurting. I am not sure who you are or how you have come to this site now - but, welcome.
It's common to consider talking to someone and to dismiss this too - it can be a scary prospect (as an idea) but the reality of those who I have spoken with over the years have said they are glad they took that step and it was much easier than they thought it would be. If you are considering talking with someone, there is a lot of really useful information about what to expect from the professional bodies that inform the quality and standards of counsellors and psychotherapists. There is the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapists www.psychotherapy.org.uk.
Counselling and Psychotherapy work with what you bring, it's your life, your concerns. One thing that often gets in the way is an idea that our troubles 'aren't real troubles', or that it can be an indulgence in some way. I don't agree with this - we are each responsible for our lives, and the most damage ever done is by those who do not reflect on what they do or how they affect other people - it takes courage to reveal who you are, to take hold of this for yourself, to find your ways through - we cannot always do this in an echo chamber of our own minds. Talking things through with a person who is focused on hearing and seeing you; expressing yourself, perhaps through words, art, or images, can be a great help in dark times.
'Decision is a risk rooted in the courage of being free'
How I Work
I adapt my approach to you and what you bring, but my main way of working now is as an existential therapist. What do I mean by this? Well, this approach essentially says that our problems are problems in living, not that there is some pathological flaw or disease. We live in a world of other people; others may be indifferent to us, be good to us or harm us, view us negatively, or positively -defining us in some way. Their reasons for this may elude us, or confuse and disturb us, we may withdraw from the world, or engage in confrontation and challenge. We will also, no doubt, have our view on others and impact upon them.
We were born into circumstances and cultures not of our choosing, we live through time and in the spaces we inhabit, we have a physical body and subject to the natural world, we know that every life ends but not how or when, we will encounter crises, and our stories will be made up of change, uncertainty, losses, loves, illnesses, accidents, dilemmas, limitations, opportunities, death. Political and social situations may feel in conflict with how we want to live, we may get caught up in systems or the sway of events and feel uneasy. We may know there are decisions to be made but can’t seem to make them, doubting ourselves, or others. Circumstances may feel beyond us and we may be in despair, or constantly feeling anxious and afraid. We may worry over big questions about life, what it’s all about, that it seems meaningless or pointless, that what we once believed in somehow no longer rings true. Life may feel absurd and ridiculous and strangely at a distance –like we are just ‘just going through the motions’. Both crisis and boredom take their toll on us.
Whatever life we choose, like ‘sliding doors’ for every door we go through another closes. It can be hard to make a commitment to a choice if overwhelmed, or lost, afraid of making the ‘wrong choice', of not being up to it, or of missing out. Existential therapy works with and understands the human desire for significance or meaning-making, of encountering meaninglessness and futility, and living our values informed by our emotional experience.
I will work with you to help you face the things that need to be faced, to enable you to ask meaningful questions of your life, and to help you tune into your answers. With kindness, a steady attitude, and an open manner, we will work to clarify what troubles you and unearth what your options may be. Even the most entrenched problems can be loosened to release enough space and movement that new vitality and perspective is possible.
When we become disorientated, grieving, lost, disillusioned - it is at these times we may come to re-evaluate our lives; to discover a reorientation and new understanding of our capacities and what living a good life means to us. It’s so easy to become confused and out of touch with our emotions and personal wisdom – let’s rectify that – if you do your part and engage honestly in sessions prepared to reflect on your experience, I’ll endeavour to do my best by you.
I am a reflective person and keen listener, and am not one to tell you what to do, but I will engage fully in our sessions and have an active, sometimes conversational approach. We may even laugh on occasion together. I am easy to talk with and offer new ways of seeing things.
If you are interested in talking with me, get in touch and we can arrange a time to see if we can work well together. I am passionate about the difference talking with the right person can bring, I have known this in my life and when all feels lost, when we are at our lowest, or our backs are against the wall, it’s then we can become our most courageous and creative.
I can offer brief, mid or long-term counselling and psychotherapy for young people, adults, and older adults.
Some of the Issues I work with
Stress and Burnout
Loss and Bereavement
Dilemmas and Choices
Self-worth and confidence
Issues with looking visibly different/ skin issues (eczema, psoriasis, acne)
Abuse and Sexual Abuse
Issues in Education (students and staff)
Location and availability
The Practice Rooms
5 Broomfield Road
1.30pm - 7.30pm
8:30am - 5:30pm
9.00am - 5.00pm
Based 5 minutes from the city centre, The Practice Rooms are close to the Hallamshire and Children's Hospitals, University of Sheffield, and the Collegiate Campus of Sheffield Hallam University - as well as Sheffield’s beautiful Botanical Gardens and the centre of Broomhill.
There is a car park on site and The Practice Rooms are also easily reached by public transport.